Yup. I know the title sounds awkward. And I also know getting into a forced friendship is more than awkward. It’s just that some people are pressuring me to make friends with people who I haven’t talked to for a while because of some rifts. And I don’t feel any pressure at all (Janina* lang?
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It’s true having enemies doesn’t feel good. But if having those enemies saves you from a lot of other stresses and potential social danger, then there’s nothing wrong with it. Safety and security is the second most important human need according to Abraham Maslow. It’s even more important than love and belongingness. So if those enemies are a danger to your safety and security, why bother having them as friends?
Secondly, sometimes it is better for people to be just casual acquaintances. In that way, you may not be close enough or chummy enough to be friends but still have respect and high regards for each other. Isn’t that cool enough?
Another thing is friendship is not necessary for all people all the time. People don’t need to be friends in order to respect each other right? Peaceful coexistence sounds a lot better. You see, friendship is too complicated, too special to be forced. Even if it can be forced, it will be likely to end up fast and create a wider gap.
As long as I feel no anger or hatred towards my so called “enemies” (although I don’t even consider them enemies anymore) and I have respect for them, I think that will be enough.
*Janina San Miguel was the rather confused contestant for Bb. Pilipinas. Look for her in YouTube.
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hmm. tungkol ba to kay c******?
ganda.
Posted by gimme gimme at June 29, 2009, 4:41 pm